Sex & Intimacy

Celebrating Your Sexual Independence

Celebrating Your Sexual Independence

This month in celebration of Independence Day, I started thinking about all the freedoms we have, the freedoms many don’t and how freedom is related to this idea of independence. What I realized is that while some of us are blessed with freedom in many forms, sexual freedom seems quite elusive— if that’s a freedom we pursue at all.

How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex: Y/N/M/F Checklists

How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex: Y/N/M/F Checklists

Unfortunately the art of pleasure is rarely (if ever) taught formally or in school. So, for many women the idea of sex is purely biological. We're taught at an early age that our bodies (and our genitalia) are made for reproduction and we're warned against the potential violation of sexual assault and sexually transmitted diseases.

What's often fundamentally missing from this conversation is the topic of PLEASURE and how our pleasure  centers work!  It is essential that we take a sexual inventory of ourselves, our feelings, our bodies, and our relationship with pleasure to know what our boundaries are and where pleasure lies. 

Bondage for Beginners

Bondage for Beginners

Many couples yearn to try something different– spice up the monotony that often rears its head in monogamous relationships. That’s why 50 Shades of Grey is such a popular phenomenon. All the taboo bedroom acts we’d fantasized about were now making their way into mainstream conversation. 

Now that I've finally seen 50 Shades Darker, I’m retooling my 50 Shades of Play: Introduction to Kink! workshop and I’m totally in the mood to talk bondage for beginners:

The Ultimate Guide to Steak & A BJ Day: March 14

The Ultimate Guide to Steak & A BJ Day: March 14

Yes, this is for real. Steak and a BJ Day, for those who may not know, occurs every year on March 14. While Valentine's Day is a day for couples to celebrate their love with gifts of affection; more often than not, the holiday is much more beneficial and enjoyable for women than for men. 

With that in mind, March 14 (exactly one month after Valentine's Day) officially marks "Steak and a BJ Day" and the concept for this holiday is simple: If your man makes you feel special on Valentine's Day, then he should feel special on this day. And what better way to make a man feel special than to cook him a steak and give him a blowjob?