Celebrating Your Sexual Independence

Celebrating Your Sexual Independence

This month in celebration of Independence Day, I started thinking about all the freedoms we have, the freedoms many don’t and how freedom is related to this idea of independence. What I realized is that while some of us are blessed with freedom in many forms, sexual freedom seems quite elusive— if that’s a freedom we pursue at all.

How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex: Y/N/M/F Checklists

How to Talk to Your Partner About Sex: Y/N/M/F Checklists

Unfortunately the art of pleasure is rarely (if ever) taught formally or in school. So, for many women the idea of sex is purely biological. We're taught at an early age that our bodies (and our genitalia) are made for reproduction and we're warned against the potential violation of sexual assault and sexually transmitted diseases.

What's often fundamentally missing from this conversation is the topic of PLEASURE and how our pleasure  centers work!  It is essential that we take a sexual inventory of ourselves, our feelings, our bodies, and our relationship with pleasure to know what our boundaries are and where pleasure lies. 

New Year's Resolution: Prioritizing Your Pleasure

New Year's Resolution: Prioritizing Your Pleasure

Eat less. Exercise more. Start the Keto diet. We started 2018 with big dreams and aspirations, didn't we? But, with all the failed New Year's Resolutions out there already (yes, and January isn't even over yet!), I'm challenging you to re-tool your resolutions and prioritize your pleasure. 

Self love is self care. And self pleasure is an expression of self-love, so pleasure is form of self-care. Self pleasure (and self care) comes in many forms and can look different for everyone. Below are a few resolutions you can adopt to help you prioritize your pleasure in 2018.

Naughty Holiday Gift Guide 2017

Naughty Holiday Gift Guide 2017

When it comes to holiday gifts this season, remember that self pleasure is a form of self-care. So be sure to treat yourself to something that will put a tingle in your stocking, if you get my drift!

In my 2017 Naughty Holiday Gift Guide, you can find the perfect secret santa gift or a delightful device that you can also use with someone special in your life. 

From lingerie to party games, there's something for everyone on this list: 

4 Ways to Feel Sexy This Fall

4 Ways to Feel Sexy This Fall

Fall is approaching and as the season changes, we get thrust out of our care-free, summer routines and into the thick of work and school. Coupled with consistent bad news and disastrous weather, it can be easy to get stuck up in the "PITS," or pleasure interrupting thoughts.  

No worries, though-- I'm here to help! Here are four fabulous ways to get out of your head and start feeling sexier right now:

Bondage for Beginners

Bondage for Beginners

Many couples yearn to try something different– spice up the monotony that often rears its head in monogamous relationships. That’s why 50 Shades of Grey is such a popular phenomenon. All the taboo bedroom acts we’d fantasized about were now making their way into mainstream conversation. 

Now that I've finally seen 50 Shades Darker, I’m retooling my 50 Shades of Play: Introduction to Kink! workshop and I’m totally in the mood to talk bondage for beginners:

3 Ways to Clear Your Chakras and Recharge Your Sex Life!

3 Ways to Clear Your Chakras and Recharge Your Sex Life!

Chakras are energy centers through which prana, or life-force energy, flows. The second chakra, or the sacral chakra, is located in the lower abdomen, two inches behind the navel.  It governs our sense of pleasure and sexual energy.

Blockages in the chakras can lead to illness and disease. If your sacral chakra is blocked or imbalanced, you may experience a decreased appetite, low libido or sexual drive, and increased feelings of jealousy and possessiveness. 

Here are some tips to tap into your sacral energy and start having better sex:

The Ultimate Guide to Steak & A BJ Day: March 14

The Ultimate Guide to Steak & A BJ Day: March 14

Yes, this is for real. Steak and a BJ Day, for those who may not know, occurs every year on March 14. While Valentine's Day is a day for couples to celebrate their love with gifts of affection; more often than not, the holiday is much more beneficial and enjoyable for women than for men. 

With that in mind, March 14 (exactly one month after Valentine's Day) officially marks "Steak and a BJ Day" and the concept for this holiday is simple: If your man makes you feel special on Valentine's Day, then he should feel special on this day. And what better way to make a man feel special than to cook him a steak and give him a blowjob?